Experiment

Ok, so it's been a little strange lately. Wait, I guess it's been strange for a while. lol Anyway, since Mike came back from PA he hasn't left. He's kind of moved in with me. What is strange is that it just sort of happened and has gone so smoothly that I have to actually think about how weird it should feel. But it doesn't feel weird. It feels natural and normal. I mean, logically we shouldn't even be at this "phase" yet. But we haven't exactly been following a "normal" relationship pattern anyway so I guess this is just par for the course.

After the first week, on the 18th I guess, I asked Mike about it. I didn't want him to think that I had a problem with him being there (just the opposite in fact) but I felt that we should talk about it. We didn't get into too detailed a discussion. He just said that he wanted to experiment with us living together. Well, that was the first time I'd heard anything about it though I had assumed that was probably what was going on. After all, before he went to PA he was complaining about how much time I was taking away from stuff but then he comes back and we're together every day after work. His friends have confirmed that when Mike makes up his mind about something, he does it. Well, yup, he does.

Jonathan and Val have both advised that Mike and I shouldn't completely move in together for a while. That we should have separate residences just in case something happens. Sound advice even though it seems doubtful to the two of us that something major could happen. But you never know. Mike agrees with that assessment. (shrug) It's up to him if he wants to keep a separate place right now. I can't do anything about my living situation until the end of July any way. We've pretty much agreed that we are just going to let the future take care of itself and not worry about it right now. He doesn't mind moving so. . .we'll see later this year. We have discussed where we would like to live and what our requirements are. Definitely want a house that has at least three bedrooms so that we each have a study where we can have space. We need a copious amount of wall space to house all of our books but the rest is pretty much open. I want somewhere with wood floors (cat hair + carpet = yuck) and a dishwasher. Yeah, yeah, I could live without the second thing but I want one. We don't need a place that already has a washer and dryer because I own those already. But a dishwasher would be good. Something out away from the country would be nice but it all depends.

I met his friend, Renee, (she's very nice) yesterday and she suggested that he consider buying a home instead of renting. Yeah, that all makes sense and I've heard it for years. It really is a good idea but we are so not at that phase yet. Better for us to rent something first and then see what happens with my job options when I graduate. The future is very fuzzy for me right now and so I am not even gonna worry about a mortgage deal at the moment. One thing at a time.

So far the "experiment" is going well. We seem to have settled down into a very nice routine. Mike is sleeping pretty well (which was a major concern for both of us before) and that's a good thing. He's actually gotten more sleep than me which surprises him since he's an insomniac. I figure, if we can manage not to kill each other in my tiny apartment, we will so make it in a larger place. I really enjoy sharing my space with him. And, I think, for the most part, he enjoys being there with me. I do think my cats drive him bonkers at times but he is dealing with them. That's good cause they turn twelve this year and, well, it would suck to be forced to choose between them and him. Otherwise, I think things are fine. Mike has started to catch up on his reading and I am starting to catch up on my work. So, onwards and upwards.