I am very tired right now but want to get you all caught up on the week. You can find wedding updates on the other blog.
Jami and Cynthia were late coming in on Monday night but I was watching their progress online so it all worked out well. We got back here at about 2a. They got out of here ok today and home all right. We spent most of the week wandering around and shopping for wedding dresses, Cynthia's prom dress, and other miscellaneous stuff. Cindy and I went to USC yesterday morning while Jami slept and I gave her a tour. She likes the campus. Last night we went to see "The Vantage Point" which was pretty good. Jami went shopping. Jon kindly brought her home so I wouldn't have to worry about coordinating everything.
We did manage to find Cynthia a prom dress. It's a very simple black one that fits her form quite well and she'll be able to wear it again for something else. So, that was good.
Most of what went on is on the other blog so check there. Gonna write it as soon as I'm done here.
Overall it was a great visit and I'm glad that they came down. (big grin)
Friday, March 14, 2008
Sunday, March 09, 2008
Spring Break
And boy. . .do I need it. lol
Let's see. . .what has been happening besides school stuff? Well, trying to get the house cleaned up and organized. It's a slow process. There is so much to go through from my various moves and things. So, it's gonna take a while.
Michael and I got another cat so that Hydona has a playmate. She has way too much energy to be by herself and needs another outlet besides us. I told Michael that I wanted a cuddle kitty. I still miss Shaman terribly but I wanted a kitty I could smoosh around like her. Hydona is affectionate but she doesn't really like to cuddle. She'll sleep on my lap but it has to be when she's worn out. So, we went to see the vet in person the day after Shaman died so I could tell him about her. He really is a nice guy. Anyway, while we were there (the other Petsmart in town), Michael saw a male cat who looks almost exactly like Shaman except he doesn't have the black nose or black chin patch. And he's bigger. So, I said, ok, we'll go talk to the cats. Well, there was a female who was fairly friendly but she wasn't as attached to us as Hydona had been the first meeting. But the male, Solaris, just wrapped his paws around my neck and wouldn't let go. He purred and when I passed him to Mike, he did the same thing plus washed his ear. Michael was a goner. lol
So, he found me a cuddle kitty. Solaris is only 9 months old but he's a big boy and just sweet as can be. He's so soft and just a big fluffer. It took Hydona two days to accept him. After all, she had been here first and we were her people. lol Solaris handled it all pretty well. He's not as dominant a character as she is but can be if need be. Hmmm. . .sounds familiar (that just occurred to me). lol Anyway, we made sure not to show preferential treatment. They get along better now than Shaman and Miri did. Of course, Shaman was way more territorial than Hydona. The two get rough but it's all good fun. Hydona and Solaris each love both of us but she has a preference for me and Solaris has a preference for Michael. It's kind of funny. But it's good cause we now have a cohesive little family. They both slept on me earlier but that was because Michael was shut off from Solaris. Now the two "men" are zonked out on the bed.
Michael was gone all last week. He had to go to NY for some computer training. He loves going up there because he gets to massively geek out on machines. He is so jinxed while traveling by air. On the way up, one of the luggage conveyors literally blew up because the belt was out of whack. So he was stuck at the airport forever. Coming back, he almost missed his flight because of traffic but since it was delayed 2 hours, he managed to (barely) make the flight though he was a half hour late and they'd already assigned his seat. Then in Atlanta he was delayed twice with the second being a sudden pickup in the wind that caused the pilot to realize that they didn't have enough fuel to compensate. I told him we are so not flying anywhere for the honeymoon. lol
But, I was smart and had gotten us a hotel room in Charlotte Friday night so it didn't matter that he didn't get into that airport until 1a. We had lunch with his mother yesterday and then came home. However, today was exciting because he woke up in severe pain. I rushed him to the ER. Turned out he was passing a 2mm sized kidney stone. (sigh) That better be our medical emergency for the year. We got him around 1p and he fell into an uncomfortable doze. The stone seems to have passed but not out yet. So, he's still taking tomorrow off from work.
That's fine by me. I have to drive up to Charlotte again tomorrow night to pick up Jami and Cynthia from the airport. They land very late. But that won't be too bad, I think. They can crash in the car. I'll be awake enough to drive. I'll probably update you all again at the end of the week.
Let's see. . .what has been happening besides school stuff? Well, trying to get the house cleaned up and organized. It's a slow process. There is so much to go through from my various moves and things. So, it's gonna take a while.
Michael and I got another cat so that Hydona has a playmate. She has way too much energy to be by herself and needs another outlet besides us. I told Michael that I wanted a cuddle kitty. I still miss Shaman terribly but I wanted a kitty I could smoosh around like her. Hydona is affectionate but she doesn't really like to cuddle. She'll sleep on my lap but it has to be when she's worn out. So, we went to see the vet in person the day after Shaman died so I could tell him about her. He really is a nice guy. Anyway, while we were there (the other Petsmart in town), Michael saw a male cat who looks almost exactly like Shaman except he doesn't have the black nose or black chin patch. And he's bigger. So, I said, ok, we'll go talk to the cats. Well, there was a female who was fairly friendly but she wasn't as attached to us as Hydona had been the first meeting. But the male, Solaris, just wrapped his paws around my neck and wouldn't let go. He purred and when I passed him to Mike, he did the same thing plus washed his ear. Michael was a goner. lol
So, he found me a cuddle kitty. Solaris is only 9 months old but he's a big boy and just sweet as can be. He's so soft and just a big fluffer. It took Hydona two days to accept him. After all, she had been here first and we were her people. lol Solaris handled it all pretty well. He's not as dominant a character as she is but can be if need be. Hmmm. . .sounds familiar (that just occurred to me). lol Anyway, we made sure not to show preferential treatment. They get along better now than Shaman and Miri did. Of course, Shaman was way more territorial than Hydona. The two get rough but it's all good fun. Hydona and Solaris each love both of us but she has a preference for me and Solaris has a preference for Michael. It's kind of funny. But it's good cause we now have a cohesive little family. They both slept on me earlier but that was because Michael was shut off from Solaris. Now the two "men" are zonked out on the bed.
Michael was gone all last week. He had to go to NY for some computer training. He loves going up there because he gets to massively geek out on machines. He is so jinxed while traveling by air. On the way up, one of the luggage conveyors literally blew up because the belt was out of whack. So he was stuck at the airport forever. Coming back, he almost missed his flight because of traffic but since it was delayed 2 hours, he managed to (barely) make the flight though he was a half hour late and they'd already assigned his seat. Then in Atlanta he was delayed twice with the second being a sudden pickup in the wind that caused the pilot to realize that they didn't have enough fuel to compensate. I told him we are so not flying anywhere for the honeymoon. lol
But, I was smart and had gotten us a hotel room in Charlotte Friday night so it didn't matter that he didn't get into that airport until 1a. We had lunch with his mother yesterday and then came home. However, today was exciting because he woke up in severe pain. I rushed him to the ER. Turned out he was passing a 2mm sized kidney stone. (sigh) That better be our medical emergency for the year. We got him around 1p and he fell into an uncomfortable doze. The stone seems to have passed but not out yet. So, he's still taking tomorrow off from work.
That's fine by me. I have to drive up to Charlotte again tomorrow night to pick up Jami and Cynthia from the airport. They land very late. But that won't be too bad, I think. They can crash in the car. I'll be awake enough to drive. I'll probably update you all again at the end of the week.
Sunday, March 02, 2008
Family Rant
Ok, so, I need to rant for a moment. Some of my family are (insert appropriate name). Fill in the () for yourself. I can't remember if I've mentioned this before so please forgive me if I did. One of my sisters-in-law had insisted that she be a bridesmaid in the wedding when I told her Michael and I were getting married. I was a little taken aback but not opposed to the idea. Just shocked as I'd already had a firm plan of who I was going to ask (and even that ended up changing for other reasons). See, here's the thing, I was one of her bridesmaids eons ago when she first married into the family. But it was all my mother's idea. Not mine. I was a young teen (about 12 or 13) at the time so I was cool with the idea but I don't think I would have been heartbroken not to have been in it. And yes, over the years she and I have become friends.
But. . .
While we are friends, I have a bunch of other friends too. So, I was thinking of asking different people to do different things for the wedding since I can't possibly have everyone in the wedding party. For example, I've asked the northern Kyle to walk me down the aisle since I no longer have my dad. I'd ask my brothers but they have daughters to do that for. Besides, I wouldn't want to choose between John and Chuck (though I could) and having all three of us won't work like I thought it would once upon a time. That had been my original image for that part -- one of them on either side of me but. . .(sigh). Anyway, I thought my sis-in-law could play the piano for us. Or help me with decorations since I could use some craftsy help. But no. She made excuses. I didn't want to hurt her feelings. I just had a different image in my head.
Plus, she's having problems with my brother. Hell, he'sprobably not even coming. And neither has been on a trip in like 20 years. I kid you not. There is always some excuse. So, how do I know that there won't be again? There's so many ifs and I need something more solid so I can plan the day.
So, now she's saying that she won't be coming down.
Am I so wrong to not want problems for my wedding? I feel guilty for hurting her feelings. I didn't mean to. Am I being selfish? People keep telling me no but I feel rotten. Hell, there are so many people I love who I have not asked to be in the wedding and who I would so love to have play a part. I'm hoping they are ok with just coming and celebrating with us. I mean, to me, that is so important. Hell, they may get to participate anyway cause we have ideas for things to do. I have friends whose weddings I haven't been in as a bridesmaid. But that was cool. I got to do other things for them. And I was happy they were happy.
This sucks. I wish my family could just be happy for me and want to be there. I wish they could just go along with the plans. Cause it isn't just about Michael and I. We are the heart of the event but the soul consists of everyone we love. I am planning things not with just us in mind but with thoughts for how we can make this an event for everyone. An old fashioned ceremony wrapped up in an entertaining package. A party to celebrate our love between ourselves and everyone there.
But apparently that mushiness doesn't really gel for some. Or they don't believe my sincerity. I thought I was past that attitude from people. Guess not. So need to work on my dissertation cause the theme of familial betrayal is such a good thing for me to be working on right now.
But. . .
While we are friends, I have a bunch of other friends too. So, I was thinking of asking different people to do different things for the wedding since I can't possibly have everyone in the wedding party. For example, I've asked the northern Kyle to walk me down the aisle since I no longer have my dad. I'd ask my brothers but they have daughters to do that for. Besides, I wouldn't want to choose between John and Chuck (though I could) and having all three of us won't work like I thought it would once upon a time. That had been my original image for that part -- one of them on either side of me but. . .(sigh). Anyway, I thought my sis-in-law could play the piano for us. Or help me with decorations since I could use some craftsy help. But no. She made excuses. I didn't want to hurt her feelings. I just had a different image in my head.
Plus, she's having problems with my brother. Hell, he'sprobably not even coming. And neither has been on a trip in like 20 years. I kid you not. There is always some excuse. So, how do I know that there won't be again? There's so many ifs and I need something more solid so I can plan the day.
So, now she's saying that she won't be coming down.
Am I so wrong to not want problems for my wedding? I feel guilty for hurting her feelings. I didn't mean to. Am I being selfish? People keep telling me no but I feel rotten. Hell, there are so many people I love who I have not asked to be in the wedding and who I would so love to have play a part. I'm hoping they are ok with just coming and celebrating with us. I mean, to me, that is so important. Hell, they may get to participate anyway cause we have ideas for things to do. I have friends whose weddings I haven't been in as a bridesmaid. But that was cool. I got to do other things for them. And I was happy they were happy.
This sucks. I wish my family could just be happy for me and want to be there. I wish they could just go along with the plans. Cause it isn't just about Michael and I. We are the heart of the event but the soul consists of everyone we love. I am planning things not with just us in mind but with thoughts for how we can make this an event for everyone. An old fashioned ceremony wrapped up in an entertaining package. A party to celebrate our love between ourselves and everyone there.
But apparently that mushiness doesn't really gel for some. Or they don't believe my sincerity. I thought I was past that attitude from people. Guess not. So need to work on my dissertation cause the theme of familial betrayal is such a good thing for me to be working on right now.
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