Future Family

Had a really interesting talk with Michael's mom, Melba, today. Well, I guess by the time this posts, it will be yesterday. But whatever. She called to ask how things were going and we ended up on the phone for three hours! It was awesome. I feel so much better now about how she views me.

I don't know if Michael told her that I was still feeling nervous around her or if she picked up on it but it was cool. Our childhood's parallel in some ways that I found interesting and I learned a lot about Michael's family. Melba was very open about her marriage and stuff. I liked her when I met her and I like her more every time we talk. Hopefully we'll be able to bring about a closeness within the family that has apparently been missing for some time. There are obviously a lot of relatives about so that's easy enough. lol

Jonathan asked me if I called her "mom". I don't know if I'll ever be able to do that. Mike pointed out last month that I will soon have another mother but I'm not sure how I feel about that idea. I haven't had one for so long that I don't know what it feels like any more. I know what it should feel like and how the relationship should go but. . . .

When I was a child, I had friends who's mother wanted me to call her mom. I didn't feel right about it because I had a mother. I guess I still feel that way. She's Mike's mother. Maybe I'll feel differently after a few years of marriage and we've all interacted as a family. Dunno. But right now I don't.

I am glad though that we had such a talk today. It felt easy. It was good. And it made me happy. yay